[Free 3-Part Video Series] Create a Relationship You Love

Posted on August 29, 2013. Filed under: Relationship | Tags: , , |

Create a Relationship You Love Video Series

Create a Relationship You Love Video Series

I have been blogging since 2010 and I am so grateful to all of you who have been with me over these past few years and for those of you who have just recently joined us.

Today I am gifting my loyal blog followers a special 3-Part Video Series: Create a Relationship You Love.

As a token of my gratitude I have compiled a high quality series of relationship advice and tips that you will find useful in improving the quality of both your romantic relationships as well as your platonic ones.

This 3-Part Video Series will include:

  • The 4 Mistakes Many Couples Make and What You Should Do Instead
  • 15 Strategies to Strengthen the Emotional Bond With Your Partner
  • How to Improve Intimacy and Connection in Your Relationship
  • Special BONUS: Get Unstuck!  Improve Communication in 10 Minutes or Less.

I wanted to package something special for you so you can easily implement these relationship strategies into your relationship.

In order to access your 3 part video series all you have to do is click here to access your video series.  You will then need to just enter your email address again, so I know where to send you your videos.

Have a great week!

Best, Andrea

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How to Communicate Effectively? Communication in Relationships

Posted on March 14, 2013. Filed under: Communication, Lifestyle, Relationship | Tags: , , , , |

When I was a teenager, I was so curious to discover the particular qualities necessary to made a relationship work.

Upon my many international travels, I would often meet couples from all over the world who appeared to be deeply in love.  And I would ask them the magic question.  What are the secrets to making your relationship work?

Couples would use words like: respect, comprehension, similar values and beliefs and communication, just to name a few.  In today’s episode, we will be tackling communication and offering you some useful skills to communicate effectively with the one you love most.

Many couples frequently mention getting stuck in a negative cycle: the blame game, demon dialogue or statemate.  Which often leads to anger, exhaustion and pain.

After watching today’s video the secrets will be revealed.  Couples will have the necessary tools and communication skills to resolve issues while remaining connected and maintaining a level of intimacy in the relationship.

If you’re struggling with communicating effectively with your partner, WATCH today’s brand new episode on True Potential TV.


How to Communicate Effectively

This strategy will help you clearly express yourself  to your partner and increase you chances of being heard, understood and your needs being met by your partner.

Thank you, and always, for reading and watching.

With love,


P.S.  If you would like Additional Resources and Relationship Tips to Transform your Life and Create a Relationship you Love, make sure you head on over to True Potential Counseling to grab my 3 Part Video Series: Create a Relationship you Love absolutely free.  The series includes:

  • Avoid the 4 Common Mistakes Many Couples Make & What You Should Do Instead
  • 15 Strategies to Strengthen your Emotional Bond with your Partner
  • How to Deepen the Connection and Intimacy in your Relationship
  • Additional BONUS:  Get Unstuck! Improve Communication in 10 Minutes or Less
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Love and Respect in Relationships…Differences between Men and Women.

Posted on June 6, 2012. Filed under: Communication, Dating, Lifestyle, Relationship | Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Back in 2006 I attended a workshop entitled Love and Respect in Relationships.  Although both are important for men and women, women feel cared for when loved and men feel cared for when they are respected.  These are some interesting tips that were a nice reminder for me in my own relationship and I thought my blog followers might also find them useful and interesting.  I am especially interested in hearing your thoughts or perspective on what you read about how men and women feel respected or lived.  Do you find it accurate for you as a women or as a man?
As your partner/wife I feel loved when…
Closeness:  I feel closeness with you (face to face and heart to heart) when you:
  • hold my hand
  • hug me
  • are affectionate without sexual intentions
Openness: I feel an openness with you (you are not secretly mad) when you:
  • share your feelings
  • tell me about your day and challenges
  • talk without harshness, guardedness or grunting
Understanding:  I feel you understand me (empathize with me) when you:
  • listen to me (know when to give advice and when not to solve my problems)
  • repeat back what I sometimes say so I know your listening to me
  • express appreciation for my contribution and roles by saying, “I couldn’t do your job.”
Peacemaking:  I feel at peace with you (issues are resolved) when you:
  • admit you are wrong and appologize by saying “I am sorry” which is a turn on to a woman
  • keep the relationship up to date, resolve the unresolved, and don’t say “forget it.”
  • add humor and lightness to the conflict, pray or connect after a hurtful time
Loyalty: I feel loyalty from you (complete commitment) when you:
  • don’t look at other women
  • speak only positive things about me before family and friends, not airing of dirty laundry
  • to be faithful and committed to me, not threatening to leave or abandon
Esteem:  I feel esteemed by you (treasured above others) when you:
  • verbalize support and honor me in front of others
  • praise me for who I am and what I do
  • value my opinion, me as a person, and my heart even if it is different from yours.
As your partner/husband I feel respected when…
Conquest:  I feel you are appreciating my pursuits in my field (my desire to work and achieve) when you:
  • tell me “thanks” for going to work everyday
  • cheer my successes whether in business or in sport
  • ask me to talk about my dreams in business and sport and encourage me to live out my dreams
Hierarchy:  I feel you’re appreciating my position as overseer (my desire to protect and provide and even die for you) when you:
  • say to me “I really do look up to you for feeling responsible for me.”
  • tell me that you are deeply touched by the thoughts that “I’d die for you.”
  • praising my commitment to provide and my contributions
Authority:  I feel you’re appreciating my power on your behalf (my desire to be strong, to lead and make decisions) when you:
  • tell me I’m strong
  • praise my good decisions
  • honor my authority in front of others and differ with me in private
Insight:  I feel you’re appreciating my perspective and proposals (my desire to analyze and counsel) when you:
  • thank me for my advice and knowledge
  • let me fix things and applaud my solution orientation
  • tell me up-front your need “an ear” to listen and not a solution
Relationship:  I feel you’re valuing my partnership and pastimes (my desire for a shoulder-to-shoulder friendship) when you:
  • tell me you like me and are friendly
  • do recreational activities with me or watch me do them
  • encourage alone time for me; this energizes me to re-connect with you later
Sexuality: I feel you are appreciating my passions and pleasures (my deisre for sexual intimacy) when you:
  • initiate periodically
  • respond more often positively
  • let me acknowledge my sexual temptations without shaming me or me feeling shamed

For more information on how to cultivate your own relationship and enhance the love and respect you feel in your own relationship, you can contact me at True Potential Counseling to schedule an appointment.

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4 Tips to Healing After Infidelity

Posted on February 26, 2012. Filed under: Men, Relationship, Trauma, Women | Tags: , , , , |

When you discover that your partner has had a physical and/or emotional affair, you may find yourself asking some very painful and challenging questions: Can trust be rebuilt? Can I and should I forgive and move on? Should I stay?

Infidelity weakens the level of trust, safety and security in a marriage; however, a couple can begin the healing process and make their relationship stronger than before if:

1) The Extra-Marital Affair Ends-By keeping the affair active or protecting the affair, the hurt spouse continues to be walled off and an emotional distance continues to separate husband and wife.  A vital step for the unfaithful partner to take is ending the extra-marital relationship and to begin opening up to his/her partner.  By getting actively engaged in the marriage again he/she is now protecting the marriage and walling off the affair.

2) The Unfaithful Partner Gets Honest- It is important for the unfaithful partner to get honest about all aspects of the affair.  Being courageous and taking accountability for his/her actions is fundamental after act of emotional or physical infidelity has occurred.  If there are any aspects of the affair that are kept hidden, a barrier will continue to divide the couple and will prevent the couple from becoming emotionally intimate with one another.  Until there is an honest disclosure the betrayed spouse will be consumed with doubt, analysis and fear and the unfaithful spouse will carry secrets, shame and remorse.

3) Compassion and Empathy Towards Your Partner- The third key for strengthening the bond between husband and wife is for both partners to have compassion for each others feelings. When marriage vows have been broken, the feelings of pain and hurt or shame and guilt can be difficult to bare.  Therefore, it is important for the unfaithful partner to have empathy towards his/her spouse’s feelings and needs, and to acknowledge the pain he/she has caused.  Moreover, it is important that the betrayed partner to openly share his/her feelings while also being open to understanding and having compassion for the needs and feelings of his/her spouse.

4) Rebuilding Trust- One way to begin rebuilding trust is for the couple to identify which trust-enhancing behaviors would help rebuild the safety and security in the relationship.  This allows the couple to remain focused on present day solutions and to be proactive about repairing the broken relationship in the here and now.  Moreover, the couple together can evaluate and resolve the problems that existed in the relationship prior to the affair.

Often times it is helpful to seek consultation from a Marriage Counselor to facilitate and guide the couple through this process, since the emotions can become very intense and it can be difficult to find the solutions or even see the problems when you are so immersed in them.

However, by taking these steps, the couple can gain insight and awareness into his/her own behaviors, perceptions, feelings and needs as well as learning and understanding his/her partner’s experience in the relationship.  This can empower the couple to begin creating a fulfilling relationship today and to start planting the seeds of hope for the future health of the marriage.

For more information on coping with the aftermath of infidelity you can visit http://www.truepotentialcounseling.com/go/contact/

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5 Tips to Getting Out of the Relationship Rutt

Posted on January 28, 2012. Filed under: Communication, Dating, Relationship | Tags: , , |

Do you feel like you and your partner have gotten into the same old pattern? Do your daily interactions lack variety and flavor? It is often said that couples who play together stay together. And sharing common interests with your partner is a great way to keep you engaged and entertained in your relationship. These 5 tips can help you add some spice and fun back into your relationship.

1. Get physically active. Whether it is going on a bike ride or going on a day trip to a nearby town or city, getting physically active is a great way to change the routine and dynamics in your relationship. Plus getting some exercise reduces your level of stress, improves your mood and alters serotonin levels.

2. Getting Playful and Creative. Maintaining your youthful spirit and childlike nature can keep things light in your relationship. Some suggestions include: having friends over for a game night, being silly and humorous with one another, or getting playful and creative in the bedroom. These activities allow you to have fun with each other and grow closer together, rather than becoming bored and feeling disconnected from the one you love.

3. Being a Life-long Learner. Take a class together and learn something new. Whether it is taking a dance class, signing up for a cooking lesson or going to an interesting seminar or workshop being mentally engaged with your partner can add vitality to the relationship. Plus it can add some variety to your general topics of conversation.

4. Be Spontaneous and Try Something New. Use your imagination and brainstorm together various activities you would each like to try. Then create a list of places you would like to go (i.e. restaurants, cities, etc.). Then randomly select an event or place each week and have some fun.

5. Have a Date Night Once A Week. Often times when there are children involved, a couples time becomes limited and become impatient with their partner. In order to curb this potential challenge and create some boundaries, it is recommended to establish a weekly date night for the couple to reconnect and add some romance to the relationship. Hiring a babysitter or asking friends and family to give you a night off will allow you to nurture your partner and rekindle the spark on a weekly basis.

For more information on how to improve your relationship visit my website at http://www.truepotentialcounseling.com/go/contact/

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Love is Patient Love is Kind

Posted on November 8, 2011. Filed under: Communication, Lifestyle, Marriage, Relationship | Tags: , , , |

Faith, Hope, and Love…but the greatest of these is Love.  Throughout history in all countries far and wide civilization has spoken about, has sung songs about and have either fantasized or experienced love.  One of the most spiritually profound and concise messages about love is the following.  “Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

This message is powerful because it is a pure and authentic view of love that has a felt-sense of warmth and beauty.  Often times if a couple is arguing with each other, dealing with insurmountable problems or are dealing with a personal struggle, it is likely that either one or both parties have lost touch with love and have gone down the ally way of fear and darkness.  When this happens it is important for the couple to reconnect with the powerful light of love to guide them home back to a place of safety, comfort, and hope.  Sometimes this ally way is so dark and is filled with so many obstacles, that a couple needs the help of a Marriage Counselor to brighten up the path ahead.  If you are interested in reconnecting with your partner and getting back into the arms of the one you love, feel free to contact me at http://www.truepotentialcounseling.com/go/contact/

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Managing Stress in Relationships

Posted on July 26, 2011. Filed under: Communication, Health, Lifestyle, Marriage, Relationship | Tags: , , , , , |

Often times life can be stressful especially when we are having unresolved issues with our significant other or are dealing with challenging parenting issues. There is a zone of tolerance that each of us have and when we cross the threshold of that zone we enter into a heightened level of stress become overwhelmed, and often fight with the person we love the most. In relationships our attachment to our significant other can be a source of comfort and security; however, when the safety of that relationship is on shaky ground it can add an additional layer of anxiety, preoccupation, helplessness and frustration. Some tips in helping to regulate emotions and manage stress is the following:

a) Exercise to alleviate stress.
b) Journaling your thoughts and feelings
c) Visualization of a safe and comforting place
d) Muscle progression- where you tighten and release each muscle of the body one at a time.
e) Sharing your feelings and needs with your significant other and if that is not possible social supports or a licensed professional counselor.
f) Breathing exercises
g) Yoga
h) Seeking marital counseling to get back to that loving feelings with your partner and out of the negative cycle that you both keep getting stuck in

For more details of assistance you can visit my website at http://www.TruePotentialCounseling.com

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Observing Yourself

Posted on March 8, 2011. Filed under: Expat, Health, Lifestyle, Relationship | Tags: , , , , , |

Observing yourself is a helpful tool on your journey through life. When you get stuck in a pattern, a thought, a relationship or at work and you don’t know how to get unstuck, watch yourself. If you find yourself reacting or feeling hopeless as thought things are never going to change or shift look at yourself neutrally without judgment. This can be a powerful tool to change the dynamics in your relationships, in your work environment and your internal dialogue and thought patterns. In becoming aware of your thinking, feeling, how you react and how you act, without reproach, then you will become aware of your choices, so you can change and grow in a new way.

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Envisioning your Ideal Relationship and Life

Posted on March 6, 2011. Filed under: Break-ups, Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationship, Women | Tags: , , , , |

A vision is a picture from your soul and heart that guides you down the path in life and in love that you most desire. The more clear and concise we are the more attuned we are with what we want, feel and see ourselves doing in our relationships, careers and life circumstances, the more likely your dreams will manifest into reality.

If you are single, you may want to write a letter to your future mate and be as descriptive as possible as to the type of man or woman you want as your partner. If you are in partnership, write a letter about the qualities and characteristics you most admire in your mate and the qualities that you offer to the relationship. Then describe how you as a couple would move through those areas of challenge in a new way (please use the present tense as though it is already a reality today). Also shed light on the areas in which you would like to show up differently in the relationship and then describe how you envision yourself to be in the future.

Be creative and leave out any judgments towards self and your partner. Trust your vision. When the pathways seems dark, learn to be comfortable with these glimpses of light that guide you towards the vision for your relationship and your life. Sometimes these dark areas can be challenging to maneuver and the support and guidance from a professional may be necessary. If you need additional help please visit http://www.TruePotentialCounseling.com today.

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Transforming Relationships

Posted on February 8, 2011. Filed under: Dating, Marriage, Men, Relationship, Women | Tags: , , , |

Many couples get stuck in the same communication patterns in their relationship and are either not aware or caught up in their own frustrations and pain that they are not open to hearing, understanding, or experiencing their partner in a new way. Often times we protect the vulnerable places in our heart and only show our frustrated, detached or defensive layer of ourselves. By going this route it may feel safer; however, in doing so we get further apart from our true essence, experience greater distance from our authentic feelings and needs and feel disconnected from that deeper connection with our partner that we desire. By facing this fear and having the courage to delve into these deeper places within our soul we discover ourselves and can be open to receiving the love, support and understanding from another human being.

For more information on how to begin this process you can visit http://www.TruePotentialCounseling.com

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